Weekend Update: Life Happens

Hi All, its been a couple of weeks since I’ve posted here.  The reason is, well life happens. Unexpected events take over and some things suffer such as this blog.

A week with my mom

About a month ago I shared that I’m a caregiver to my mom and that she was going to be staying with me for a week while my sister was on vacation.  Well, that week was a bit of a challenge.  My mom doesn’t take well to changes in her life and she was not very happy with the change of staying in my house.  She was irritable and it was hard on both of us.  So, after a week she went back to my sister’s house and everything was supposed to go back to normal.

I should mention that both my sister and my mom’s home health aide where on vacation at the same time and that is the reason I brought her to my house.  Anyway,  we got word that her long time home health aide got sick and would not be back until a week later.  Then, we heard from the aide that she was considering not returning to work with my mom after 5 years of being her caregiver during the day.  This was kinda of nerve-racking because, as I mentioned, my mom does not do well with changes.  This meant another change, retraining a new health aide and so on.

Finding New Help and Other Issues

Needless to say it became a stressful time.  Well, the aide indeed quit on us and it was a bit of a shocker really.  I just felt that it was so sudden and with no notice.  After 5 years of working with my mom and with us she just went on vacation and decided not to come back.  It just wasn’t the way I thought she would leave. Anyway, we had to scramble to find a new home health aide. Luckily the agency was able to find someone quickly and my mom is starting to slowly get used to the change.

Another thing that happened in regards to my mom is she can no longer handle going up several stairs.  She can handle one step but more than that is a real challenge for her.  I’ve been looking into options to install a ramp or a stairlift.  The financing for this will have to be split between my siblings and whatever savings my mom has.  I will be writing a post about how to deal with the costs of caregiving for aging parents and asking for financial help from family members.  I know some have expressed an interest in the subject.  I’ll say communication is very important as in all human relationships.

Work Arena

On a different note, there’s also stuff going on in the work arena for us.  I won’t get into too much here but basically both my husband and I are looking for new positions.

One of the great things about self employment that I enjoy reading about from business owners is the freedom to control your business.  There is little to no “office politics” or “corporate restructuring” to deal with.  Though there are many benefits to having an employer those are two things I don’t enjoy.

I will say that I’m glad we’ve been living a deflated lifestyle and we have our emergency savings.  You never know what twist and turns life will bring and you need to be prepared.

Well, I hope you all have a great weekend.


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4 Tips for a Successful Job Interview:  Now that I’m back on the job hunt again this post came in very handy.  It was Shannon’s last post before she left Young Adult Money.

How Could Learning a New Language Help Your Career?:  This post is from Money Bulldog.  I thought it was interesting as you never know what will land you a job.  I’m fluent in Spanish and though I have not used the skill in my career yet,  I do have it listed on my resume.   I do use the skill personally and especially when dealing with doctors and translating information to my mom.




Weekend Update: Life Happens — 19 Comments

  1. That all sounds very stressful. Sorry to hear that your mother’s caregiver just left so suddenly- I can imagine how difficult that would be for everyone, especially your mom. Hopefully you find someone good as a replacement.
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  2. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been going through so much. That is really shocking the aide just up and left like that. I had a coworker whose dad needed a caregiver, and she had problems at least once a week with them either showing up late, faking care, or not showing up at all. I don’t get how you could be an aide and leave a family in such an awful position. I wish you well in your job search!
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    • Thankfully, our previous aide was very reliable and gave great care to my mom. We were lucky to have her for 5 years. I’m just disappointed with the way she decided to leave. Wish she would have given us advance notice so we could prepare mentally and emotionally. The whole thing was just weird and unexpected.

  3. Raquel, so sorry to hear about your Mom. Elder care can be very stressful, probably more stressful than teenagers! I hope she gets comfortable with the new PSW soon for all of your sakes. When you have a lot on you plate, career wise and other wise, it’s not fun. We’ll be here whenever you want to rant. Take care.
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  4. Caring for a parent is SO difficult and I am sure that it doesn’t help that you also have job challenges as well. If I can help you find something, please send me a note offline. I am not sure which direction you are hoping to take, but if I can help, let me know. Transition times like this with jobs are stressful and uncertain, but they always seem to be for a reason and always lead us to somewhere better or at least where we are supposed to be next.
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    • Thank you so much Shannon. I appreciate your offer in helping me out. I agree that everything happens for a reason and I’m sure we’ll be better off in the long run.

  5. Wow! Sorry about all the stress that’s happening. It must be very hard. Of course when it rains, it pours. I hope you guys find good positions too. You were lucky to have the same person for 5 years!!!! My mom runs through them fast, and it’s not usually the aide’s fault either. One of my sisters finally read her the riot act, and she has had the same woman for about a year now 🙂

    • That is so true Kemkem, it’s not usually the aide’s fault. It’s a difficult job and in many cases is under paid too. My mom can drive someone crazy too so we were indeed very lucky to have the same aide for all that time.

  6. Sorry to hear that you’ve been going through so much. I know my mom was dealing with these issues with my grandmother. My grandmother stayed with her for a few months, but the spare room was on the second floor so it was difficult to go up and down. At one point, the only time you would be able to come downstairs was when I carried her. I’d be interested in how much a stair lift would cost. I also dream about starting my own business as well…while office politics are no longer an issue and you don’t have to answer to a boss, you still have to answer to your clients/customer. Hope to hear more about your possible business ventures.
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    • The stair situation is a very common one. Five years ago we had to get one for my mom to use indoors because her apartment was on the second floor. We paid $4000. Now we need to buy the outdoor model which I’ve found out will cost $4000 as well. We’ll have it installed next week.

      Yea, it’s true, there’s always a negative in every work situation.